Disclaimer: Sometimes I write very concisely and straight forward and at other times I take the scenic route. The following is the scenic route.
I gave birth to my daughter 145 days ago (almost 5 months) and it’s been quite the experience.
In the area of “sleep schedule” it’s been a journey. In the very beginning, I would wake up to feed her and change her diaper every 2-3 hours. It wasn’t too hard. I expected sleepless nights so I did it like a champ. Besides, she was sleeping in an bassinet next to our bed. I had a whole set up right there. Bassinet, changing pad, diapers, wipes and a night light so I didn’t wake up my husband- and of course boobs are always at the ready. It was sweet.
Over time, when she didn’t need to be changed in the middle of the night and she began to sleep a little longer, we moved her to her bedroom where she would sleep in her crib. It took us 3 months but we got there. The transition was smooth.
When people would (almost inevitably) asked me “is she sleeping through the night?” or “how much does she sleep?” I usually answered from a peculiar perspective- I came to realize. My answer always began with “she gives me X hours of sleep…” Or “she gave me a sweet midday nap.”
At first glance, it seems harmless to think that my child, the one who runs my sleep schedule for the first months of her life, could “give” me anything.
The fact of the matter is she sleeps X hours at a time. She’s not giving me anything. She’s just being a baby, doing baby things. I caution to say “she gives me” anything because the flip side of that is her taking something away from me; which, to me, is a slippery slope, that runs the risk of placing blame. The other side of the coin looks like: “she didn’t give me a nap today” and “she didn’t let me get anything done today.” Again, she didn’t do anything but be a baby. My daughter’s sleep is hers, not mine.
I aim to be conscious of my language, not only around her, but also about her. That type of language can influence the way I treat her, consciously or subconsciously. She’s a clean slate, a 145-day old human being, and I want to treat her as such for as long as possible.
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