In Beyonce’s song “Flawless,” Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie starts out with “we teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.” She goes on to talk about success, ambition and life choices. I understand that in this sound byte culture it’s advantageous to be concise. And some people had never heard about her before so this was a wonderful introduction.
#selflove: my faaaaaave!
A few rapid-fire tips to learn to love yourself and what impact self love can have on your life.
– accept yourself
– stop comparing yourself to others
– stop talking badly to yourself
Recently, I went to a “Books and Babies” event hosted by the local library. The age range for this event was 0-18 months. My daughter is in that age range so off we went. I didn’t have any huge expectations, really. I imagined a woman reading books to a small group of children sitting quietly in a circle. I thought my daughter might enjoy it. When I read to her, she loves it. Why not do it with other babies? Right? Right.
In “New Moms Be Doing The Most” news:
I give my daughter these puffs (1) to snack on and work on her motor skills . The gift that keeps on giving, those things. Then one day I thought to myself, “I bet I can make them myself, but with better ingredients.” So I head on down to Pinterest
My daughter is such a pure and profound reminder that I am enough.
To her, I don’t need to change myself to fulfill her needs. I don’t need makeup, heels, a cute outfit, a filter, a body shaper, or retouching. My self, my body, my love, as is, is enough.
It’s not about “bouncing back” to my pre-baby size/weight. It’s more about getting to know and falling in love with this new body. A body that carried another human life. A body that now knows it’s magical powers. This body didn’t exist this time last year. It’s impossible and foolish to want to “bounce back” to her. It’s almost like trying to be a virgin again: impossible.